Measuring Success: Life Coaches vs. LIFE Coaches

With 2012 rolling around it seems like everyone has started in on those new year’s resolutions. Maybe you plan to lose weight, save more money, get out of debt, work on your marriage, travel to Europe or start your own business. Whatever the goal may be, you may have thought about getting some help along the way. Maybe you’ve even considered hiring a life coach.

So what should you look for in someone to help you? After all, today just about anyone can become a “life coach.” In fact, I did a little research and found out that one program will certify life coaches after just a 16 hour course! It’s so simple a process that many certified life coaches are not qualified to coach.

Of course, I’m not saying the entire life coaching industry is bad, but it’s not as good as it could be. Why is that? Well it all depends on what’s the most important component – certification or real success. Lack of success in any given area in life doesn’t automatically make a bad person, but it does disqualify someone from giving good advice. Someone who knows successful life principles well enough to teach them ought to live them as well. It just makes sense that to be a successful coach you must first have SUCCESS!!

It wasn’t that long ago that I was broke, my marriage was falling apart and I needed some help. Thankfully, a friend introduced me to the guy who would become my mentor, Orrin Woodward. Orrin coached me to a seven figure income in 31 months and more importantly coached me in all areas of the 8Fs. (Faith, Family, Friendship, Fitness, Finances, Following, Freedom and Fun) Why did I listen to him? Well he already had the results I was looking for – in his business, his marriage and so many areas.

In November 2011, Orrin and I along with six other men founded a revolutionary new company dedicated to helping others develop and change their lives. Orrin either directly or indirectly coached all of the LIFE founders, all of whom have helped many other people do the same.

That’s the kind of success we should be looking for in a life coach – not certification, though there is nothing really wrong with that, but someone who not only has success in one area of life, but in many. After all, why would anyone take marriage, financial or business advice from a “certified life coach” who broke up with his girlfriend, has student loans, or whose only business experience is working at the local carwash during summer break?

As you’re looking for help in the new year, seek out someone with the knowledge you want and the personal success to back it up. LIFE coaches measure their effectiveness in personal growth and results – that’s the kind of person you want to follow.

IAB Leadership Award goes to Orrin Woodward!

I want to extend my congratulations to my mentor and friend Orrin Woodward for winning the Independent Association of Businesses Top Leadership Award. His website, orrinwoodward.com, was chosen as the 2011 Top Leadership Website.

The IAB website lists the following criteria used to determine winners:

- Originality of ideas
- Practicality of ideas
- Presentation style
- Testimonials
- Impact of ideas
- Quality of web content, publications and writings
- Ranking of website in America

Orrin’s teachings on leadership and LIFE are always original and practical and have certainly had a huge impact on many people over the last year. Congratulations Orrin on this well-deserved recognition!

Leadership in Action – Tim Tebow

Please watch this Tim Tebow video. Like him or not I think you will see why he has influence with his team. A true sportsman and Christian.

Merry Christmas everyone.

If We Aren’t Humble, We Will Be Humbled

My mentor, Orrin Woodward, says leaders should value excellence over ego. I couldn’t agree more – in fact, I’m convinced that humility is an essential quality of a great leader.  I included a section on humility in my upcoming book, The Voyage of a Viking. I hope you enjoy this excerpt.

 

“For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” – Luke, 14:11, ESV

 

Defeat can be a blessing.  Many times it is.  Defeat forces us to face reality and admit our weaknesses.  If we are in the process of becoming a leader, defeat is used to prepare us for that responsibility.  It’s better to make a mistake leading a small group of people and improve yourself then, rather than NOT learn the lesson and make that same mistake when you are leading a large group of people.

 

Maybe we are harsh with people, as I was and sometimes still have to be on guard against. Maybe we are disorganized. Maybe we are moody, or unpleasant to be around. Maybe we are negative. Whatever we need to improve, defeat usually has a way of pointing out our “area of opportunity.” As Tommy Newbury says, “We often don’t realize it, but we frequently come face to face with the exact obstacle we need at just the right time to sharpen us where we need it the most.” Hopefully, we can swallow our pride, admit we need to grow in a certain area, and say, “I need to overcome this weakness.”

 

One area of character that defeat really helps us manage is arrogance and pride. If we aren’t humble, we will be humbled – count on it! I know when I started having fast success in building my leadership business I made the mistake of “reading my own press clippings.” I listened to those who were praising me and cheering for me, and I started to get a big puffed up chest, thinking I was “all that and a bag of chips.”  Well, God corrected me on that one pretty quickly by causing my business to slow down until I faced my arrogance. In fact, any time my pride has gotten out of hand, He sends me a gentle little reminder to knock me back into place.

 

I’m amazed at how we struggle with arrogance and pride, because a lot of the time we look pretty goofy to the people around us. It might do us some good to stop trying to look good all the time and just come down to earth. C.J. Mahaney, author of Humility: True Greatness, suggests one way to manage pride. He says, “First, play golf as much as possible.  Yep, golf. In my athletic experience, I don’t think there’s a more difficult or humbling sport. Rather, humiliating – because if you play at all, you know all about those shots that result in laughter from you partners and humiliation for you. No one escapes them.” I think we could all benefit by loosening up and allowing ourselves to look silly more often.

Read RESOLVED

Have you read RESOLVED: 13 Resolutions for LIFE, the new book by Orrin Woodward? If you haven’t I strongly encourage you to go out and get it today. Though this book just hit the shelves, positive reviews from top leaders are already pouring in.

The book outlines Orrin’s personal resolutions which he followed on his path to becoming a New York Times bestselling author, one of the World’s Top Leadership Gurus, and a founder of the incredible new LIFE business. Not only is he incredibly qualified as a leader of leaders, but he is my personal friend and mentor.

I’ve mentioned before how important it is to follow a great leader. In my upcoming book, The Voyage of a Viking, I expand on that thought -

If you are blessed to have access to a mentor, my advice is to chase them down and do whatever you can to earn their time.  If they encourage you to read a book, buy it and read it!  If they encourage you to attend a seminar that will help you learn to improve your life, I recommend you follow their advice.  A simple rule in life is to find someone who has done what you want to do, and follow in their footsteps.  If you do that, you are sure to achieve your goals.

Let me add to that now – If your mentor writes a book, get it and read it! And recommend it to others so they can benefit too.

Have you read RESOLVED? Share how it has impacted you in the comments below.

Your LIFE – Five Years from Now

I while ago I mentioned a way of thinking about LIFE that I’ve learned from my mentor, Orrin Woodward. It was a simple, three step pattern called Define, Learn, Do.

Just to recap, that’s -

  1. Define what you want out of LIFE
  2. Learn from someone who has what you want
  3. Go out and Do the same thing they did

When you are committed to this process and getting it underway there are some questions you should ask that help in narrowing down the Define step. The biggest question would be, “What do I want to accomplish in LIFE?”

You can get even more specific and ask, “What do I want to accomplish…

  • in the next thirty days?
  • in the next six months?
  • in the next twelve months?
  • in the next five years?”

In five years what do you want to be? Maybe you are a nurse practitioner and you’re going to school to be a doctor. You want to be a doctor in five years, so set that as your goal and go make it happen.

Maybe you’re just getting started in business and want to be a millionaire in five years. Great. Find someone who is a millionaire in your business and learn from them.

Figure out what it is that you want out of life and find out how to do it. Break it down into smaller parts. Go from five years to four years to three years. Figure out two years, one year, six months, thirty days. What do you need to do to move slowly toward that goal?

Orrin and Chris Brady (who co-authored the book Launching a Leadership Revolution), spent years just getting better themselves and trying to build a business. It was five or six years before they really made any income or started to see the fruits of their labor.

Most people aren’t willing to work that hard for that long, because they lack long term vision. They can’t move past the first step in the Define, Learn, Do process because they don’t stop to ask themselves, “What do I really want out of LIFE?”

The saying at the top of this site sums it up well – “If you don’t know where you are going, you are probably already there.”

Figure out where you are going. Where do you want to be in five years? What is it that is going to Define your LIFE?

“Viking” Sets Sail in Early 2012

Just a few days ago, my mentor and friend, Orrin Woodward, posted an announcement on his leadership blog about a soon-to-be-released book.  I’m also excited to add my confirmation that The Voyage of a Viking, which chronicles my own journey in leadership and many of the things I’ve learned along the way, is due out early next year. Orrin graciously agreed to write the forward, which you can read here.

Great Goals

One thing my mentor, Orrin Woodward, has helped me develop is the habit of setting goals. G-O-A-L-S, goals. Goal setting not only helps me structure where I want to go in LIFE, but it gives me a way to keep score.

Great goals only come out of great dreams, but once you have a big dream you’ll be more apt to get some goals together. Of course, there is more to goal setting then just sitting down and thinking them up. There is a little bit of strategy to it. Really great goals need to be three things: written, specific, and scheduled.

 

  • Written – In Launching a Leadership Revolution, Orrin and his co-author, Chris Brady, underscore the need to have written goals. If they’re not written down we’re tempted to think that our goals are not important or we might even forget what they are. Write your goals down – that’s step one.
  • Specific – Be specific about your goals, because when you focus on specific goals you tell yourself, “I am going to keep score.” When your goals are specific then you know exactly what you’re aiming for. This works for me and I’m sure it will work for anyone else. I perform differently when I am keeping score. Make your specific goals aggressive yet realistic. This is where a mentor can be a big help. Just like Orrin and I work together on goal setting, get with someone who can help you come up with some specific, realistic goals.
  • Scheduled – Great goals are set on a time-line. There needs to be an end date set for getting things done, and it should be something that is sooner than 3012. Having a time-line in mind will get you moving rather than spending all your time planning. This makes all the difference in the world. As Stephen Covey says, “A mediocre strategy well executed is infinitely better than a well executed strategy that sits on the shelf.”

Now some people look at goals and say, “I don’t want to have a goal because what if I miss it and then I won’t feel good?”

If you have a big enough dream, then your goal is going to be something that will fire you up, even if you miss it. I don’t hit that many of my goals the first time I set them. I  still rarely hit them the first time. I think I’ve only hit one or two in their original time frame. That does makes me mad! But if I don’t hit it, I just say, “Here’s an opportunity for me to get better.”

You are going to miss goals along the way, but I can tell you this, if you have an expectation that you’ll hit a goal, then your mind will find a way to make it happen. So get with a mentor and set some written, specific, and scheduled goals – then get out there and execute them!

Ready to Launch – the-life-business.com!

Starting this evening, Orrin Woodward and the leaders of the TEAM will gather in Columbus, Ohio to prepare for the launch of something that will change the face of our business for the better forever. The LIFE business is a merger of four difference industries. It’s community building meets self improvement, and  life coaching meets network marketing – all combined in a way that will bless and change the lives of those involved.

It’s history in the making this weekend in Columbus. Are you ready? Here we go!

Shifting Lanes in Life

In their book, Launching a Leadership Revolution, Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady write, “The right lane is never crowded. There always seems to be a shortage of leaders, but a plethora of people heading the other way.”

But why are all these guys going the wrong way? I believe it’s because they don’t know where they are going, don’t know when they’ll arrive and they don’t care or don’t have the courage to change directions. Many of them might be just like I was, driven by pride and a sense of self-preservation that closes the mind.

Shifting to the right lane isn’t always easy. I know, when I first heard about Orrin and the TEAM business I wanted nothing to do with it. A couple of friends tried to show me the plan and I said, “Get that thing out of here.” Literally, I hit the paper.

“No, it’s stupid. It won’t work.”

Still to date I don’t think I have met anyone who is as close-minded as I was when I was exposed to this industry. Probably the biggest thing that changed from that first day was that I opened my mind.

When I saw the TEAM and LIFE industry, my only thought was to defend my position and I had no interest at all in seeking the truth. Ultimately what was driving this was my pride and self-preservation because of all the work that I had put into becoming an engineer. I didn’t want to admit that it might not take me where I wanted to go because I did work so hard at it.

That is natural. I still see people today who do the exact same thing. They are willing to sacrifice success on the alter of pride because they don’t want to let go and consider that what they are doing might not get them where they want to go. Most people have bought into this typical way of thinking.

“Hey if I just go get a degree then I will be successful.” If that were true, then ninety-five percent of the people wouldn’t be broke out there.

Now I am one hundred percent for education. When I was exposed to TEAM I was only for college education, and I thought that was the road to get me where I wanted to go. Then I read a book called The Magic of Thinking Big. It does exactly that, it gets you to think big, and I really fell in love with the process of education. I wasn’t just educating myself out of duty, which is what I think a lot of people do, but I developed a hunger for truth.

That has effected so many areas of my life – in my TEAM life, my marriage life, my faith life.  A hunger to know the truth keeps me pointed in the right direction.

So if you find yourself traveling down the wrong lane, open your mind. After all, a mind is like a parachute – it’s not worth much if it’s not open. Fall in love with learning, hunger for the truth and seek it. It could turn your life around.

Resolved to Lead

I love what the movie Courageous teaches about resolutions fathers should make in leading their families. Working with Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, I’ve learned that many of the same principles apply to leading a Team. Within families and all other areas of LIFE,  John Christian Bovee has it right when he says, “Example has more followers than reason. We unconsciously imitate what pleases us, and approximate to the characters we most admire.”

High-performing teams tend to start with high-performing leaders. If a leader is a bump-on-a-log, leading through position or intimidation, any high-performers on their team are probably looking past them with an eye towards gaining the respect and attention of a better qualified leader higher up on the ladder.

If we are ever dissatisfied with how our team is performing, whether it is our team at work, at church, on the sports field or even our family ‘team’, we should never point the finger at the other people involved. We should always have a conversation with the leader in the mirror and ask “What more could I have done, and what more can I do now?”

Bill Hybels says “Speed of the leader, speed of the team.” He’s right. If we cannot say ‘Follow me,’ to our followers – and mean it – then we’ve got a problem, a big one. A great leader has to be able to say, “Follow my values. Follow my integrity. Follow my work ethic, my commitment, and my communication patterns. Fight as I fight. Focus as I focus. Sacrifice as I sacrifice. Love as I love. Repent as I repent. Admit wrong as I admit wrong.”

But it’s not enough for leaders just to say they are going to do these things, leaders worth following must be Resolved to live this way. This is what I love about Courageous. It calls fathers (or anyone for that matter) to live according to certain principles.

    I WILL confront evil, pursue justice and love mercy.
    I WILL pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect and compassion.
    I WILL forgive those who have wronged me and reconcile with those I have wronged.
    I WILL learn from my mistakes, repent of my sins and walk with integrity as a man [or a woman] answerable to God.

These and other statements like them should form our resolve as we lead out in our homes, our churches and all other areas of LIFE. When the new LIFE business launches on 11-1-11 it will bring with it great opportunity to put these principles of leadership in to practice and change the community building industry for the better forever!

Commitment

Commitment. We all struggle with it in some way shape or form – we just have to be aware of it. Zig Zigler says “Most people are about as committed as a kamikaze pilot on his seventh mission.”

That is kind of funny if you understand what a kamikaze pilot is.

Think about marriage or college. Only about 50% of people who go to college actually finish. I’m told that only half of those who do graduate college actually work in the field that they studied. Gym memberships are another one that comes to mind. Each January, thousands of people in every state make a commitment. “Hey I’m going to work out. I’m going to get in shape.”

Now I know there are some people who enjoy working out, but even they probably like the end result more. The reason that people go to the gym is because they want the end result. They want to lose weight. They want to feel better about themselves. The minute they take their eyes off that they won’t go do the action because they have not committed to it.

We have to commit. There is a reason that gyms have unlimited memberships but limited equipment. Why are there a limited number of machines in there? Because the gym owners realize that people do not keep their commitments.

Another quote I love is “Good sailors are not made on calm seas.”

Back in the time of the sailing ships they didn’t have access to instant weather and GPS. You couldn’t call a phone number and check the weather or get on the internet and look up the weather report. Good sailors are never made on calm seas, they are made on rough seas. These sailing ships would go out, and when you are fifty, eighty, a hundred miles off the coast and a storm comes, you’re going to learn to be a good sailor. You’re pretty much committed. You will become a good sailor.

That level of commitment does not exist in so many of our lives because we just don’t need to be that committed. For whatever reason our country has become incredibly noncommittal. We think commitment is only for the special or the strong.

I remember seeing a poster about commitment once. It had a picture of a guy in a kayak and he was going over this waterfall that looked to be about fifty or sixty feet tall. Once you get over the precipice of that waterfall you are fully committed. You are going, no matter what you want to do. I am pretty sure there is no reverse on a kayak. There was a cute saying and it was a very inspirational thing to look at, but it raises a crucial question.

We have to ask ourselves, like the guy in the kayak, are we committed to anything? Are we that committed to anything? What is it in your LIFE, that you need to commit to today?